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Relational Conflict

October 9, 2022 • Jon Furman • Under Pressure

Relational Conflict
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Sermon Notes: October 9, 2022

Under Pressure 5: Relational Conflict - Jon Furman

Colossians 3:12-15

Romans 12:17-19 (NLT)

Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.

Repentance and Forgiveness are pressure relievers that offer reconciliation to people in conflict.

James 4:1-2b (NIV)

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight.

Repentance is confessing and accepting responsibility for the debt we’ve created.

Repentance says, “I know I owe you.”

Forgiveness is releasing someone from a debt they can’t repay.

Forgiveness says you don’t owe, or own me anymore.

Colossians 3:12 (NLT)

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

Tenderhearted Mercy


Kindness & Gentleness


Colossians 3:13 (NLT)

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Colossians 3:14-15 (NLT)

Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.

Who do you need to forgive?

What do you need to forgive?

How do you need to repent?